Alpahabet soup for the soul vol.2 “M”

M is for Mindset

“Happiness has to do with your mindset, not with outside circumstance.”

– Steve Maraboli-

Mindset is everything. Mindset determines if you will accomplish the things, you set out to do. Mindset determines if you will get back up when you fall, and mindset will let you fail forward.

Mindset keeps you going when things get difficult, which happens to everyone and will for sure happen to you at some point in 2022, 100%.

Mindset will help you cross the finish line when you feel like the tank is empty. It allows us to dig deep when there seems to be nothing left and it helps us find that extra reserve that we didn’t ‘think’ we had.

Mindset is beliefs and values, mixed with determination and motivation

Mindset proves the saying that “In order to have the things others don’t, we have to do the things that others won’t”.

Carrol Dweck talks elegantly about Fixed mindset vs Growth mindset. The research on fixed vs growth mindset tells us that every person has the opportunity to decide which of the two categories they want to be in.

Even if you’ve had a fixed mindset your entire life; you can change to a growth mindset right now. That’s a decision that nobody (except for you) can stop you from making.

Once the decision to grow is made then you start by writing down what you want. Here is where you make a plan for your future. The next step is to follow and measure your progress along the way.

Inevitably you will hit some targets and miss others. When you miss, just make the necessary adjustment to the timelines and skills needed so that you will hit the target and eventually you will achieve what it is that you desire.

By following these steps you are creating change in your life. All of a sudden the path becomes a bit clearer and you start seeing the rewards of the work you’re doing. All this stems from adopting a growth mindset.

Another truth Carol Dweck’s research shows us is that a fixed mindset means you are a victim of your circumstances and believe that you can’t change, however; a growth mindset knows that change is not just possible but is necessary for those who want a different outcome.

Most importantly, this hypothesis teaches us that the growth mindset believes the power grow and change is within anyone who decides to walk that path. The growth mindset does not see failure as the end but as one more way not to do something.

So don’t ask what kind of mindset you have, but rather, what mindset do you want to have?

Alphabet soup for the soul vol.2 -“L”

L is for Love

“There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love.” – John- 4:18-

Love is our natural state of being, feeling and emoting.

Everything else is is based in fear and fear is a lie. Guilt, shame, jealousy, anger, envy, scarcity, lack,  all of it. Its all a lie that has been put over on all of us by the culture scape. That is media, church and state, education and now social media.

It’s the devil if you will whereas God is pure love.

The love we feel when we see a baby or enjoy nature.

Fear is usually based on our past or our incorrect predictions of the future. when we are present , truly present, we feel only love because we are in the moment being,doing and feeling, when we get stuck in our mind that is when we are fearful and that is where fear arises from.

we literally make it up, so stop thinkg and start doing

Let go of the past. move forward and make this upcoming year the year you accomplished some of the things on your list that you have been thinking avbout but never started.

Design your year and wrap it up in a theme, last year my theme was surrender and even during a pandemic the theme allowed me to have one of the most productive and happiest yearss of my life.. Everytime i was frustrated or angry with my progress I asked myself if i was surrendering, that anserr eEVERY single time was tno, iwas not surrendering and on the oppposite end when i did surreder things that i never imained began happening, my theme for 2022 is expansion (or evoloving)

Alphabet soup for the soul vol.2 -“K”

K is for Kind

“Be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle” -Plato-

There is a piece of word-art in my home that says “In a world where you can be anything, be kind”

Do you go out of your way to be kind? Do you say or do nice things for others (and yourself) , for reasons other than to make them (you) feel good?

Are you a kind person?

If things are not going the way you want in life, and you find yourself often sad or angry, then you have nothing to lose by projecting kindness.

In a media and global landscape that seems to be trying to force almost the entire world to live in fear of disease, natural disasters, and scarcity, being kindness will always win.

On a planet where we so visibly see global inequality for simple things like water, education and human rights, it is easy to be selfish and thinks there is not enough. The one thing you can always do no matter how much or how little you have is be kind.

It is also a quick and easy way to shift your inner world.

If we choose to be kind to others that is what we will receive in return. It’s one of the laws of the universe (projection = perception). For whatever you send out will come back to you.

If your projecting kindness then it will return as kindness.

You will look at fellow brothers and sisters and share an energy that transcends the spiritual into human comprehension. All just because you were being kind.

‘Do unto others’. It helps others when your kind but it also helps you. Start today and pay it forward. Say or do something kind to someone else or yourself and you will begin to transform your life

Alphabet soup for the soul vol.2 -“J”

J is for Journey

“It may be that when we no longer know which way to go that we have come to our real journey.” -Wendell Berry-

It is not until we get further down the path and become more self-aware that we can clearly see that the trials and tribulations were put in front of us to make us stronger.

For those who are most fortunate, they can take the worst thing that has ever happened and make it the best.

Once the original victim confronts their trauma, they can help others in a cyclical altruistic fashion that harmonizes healing.

Things happen to us that we can perceive in the moment as tragic. It can feel as if things will never get better but if we believe they will , they will.

It is our perception of the world around us that determines how we react to the circumstances that unfold in our lives.

How would we know there is light unless we have first experienced the dark?

Our journey almost always becomes clearer just after we bend but don’t break.

The place where we push through when it would have been easier to give up.

A place where we see the lesson that is being taught in our journey.

The mistakes and the suffering of the past all have a lesson to teach us on our unique journey through life. Look closely and you will find that in all those dark times, the light came soon after.

If you can not see the light right now that means it is coming, so keep your eyes and heart open and let love and light shine through you, there is someone who needs you to help them through your story.

Alphabet soup for the soul vol.2- “I”


“Impermanence is a principle of harmony. When we don’t struggle against it, we are in harmony with reality.” -Pema Chodron-

The reason we love to watch a fire crackle or a river flow is that it is forever changing. A sunset or starry night provides the same illusion.

The only constant in this world is impermanence. All we have to do is look at the season that changes every 90 days with precision to see that nothing lasts forever.

 It doesn’t matter who you are, we are all changing until our time on this earth is complete and we head on to bigger and brighter pastures. 

Even death is not death but a change of form. Albert Einstein, the greatest physicist that ever lived said “energy cannot be created or destroyed, it can only be changed from one form to another”

If humans are just matter filled with energy (and we are beyond any doubt) then when we cease to breathe we are not dead, we have just changed form and changed the way our energy is being transmitted.

As of today we only have 3 dimensions in our experience. Up/down – forward/backward and side to side. String theory says there are possibly 10 dimensions, M-theory has 11 and bosonic string theory posits 26 dimensions, yet we can only see 3.

If there are 10,11 or 26 dimensions, then we have barely scratched the surface and “I” could be for illusion because what we see is not a full representation of reality.

It would be akin to looking at the ocean while standing on a beach and thinking you are seeing the entire ocean.

When the day turns to night, then night turns to day, this is also a reminder of impermanence, for in a single sunrise we see how quickly the sky is changing. Every second that goes by the sky reorganizes itself in different hues of orange and pink until suddenly minutes have gone by and the sun is no longer on the horizon but has risen steadily above until it crosses the sky eventually and starts eventually starts to set in the west.

That is another impermanent illusion if you consider that the sun is steady in the middle of the universe and we here on Earth are the ones spinning around it every 24 hours.

Alphabet soup for the soul vol.2 -“H”

H is for Healing

“As soon as healing takes place, go out and heal somebody else” -Maya Angelou-

Is love the stepping stone to healing? Or, is healing is the stepping stone to love?

When we love, we begin to heal and when we heal we can begin to love, ourselves, and others more fully.

Imagine you were in the depths of despair and you had a chance to speak with God.  What would you say?

Despair and depression are the best friends of pain and for those who suffer chronically life can seem to be hopeless at times.

Every day waking up knowing exactly how the day will unfold before it even started.

Knowing that all day will be a struggle. A struggle that no one can understand and because of that, the person in pain isolates themselves from the world. Not because they don’t want to be around others but because they can not concentrate on anything other than the pain.

Feeling as if you are just waiting around to die. This belief is reinforced by shoving handfuls of pills into your mouth like Halloween candy. Doing this 3 or 4 times throughout the day, just to remind your brain of your staus ( in case you forget).

That was the life I lived during a dark night of the soul that lasted for a decade until I did have a conversation with God.

I pleaded with her saying ‘if you will heal me, I will spend the rest of my life helping to heal others. Now, I can still feel the pain but I am no longer suffering.

I stopped taking pills (33 a day) and started to love myself and others. It is when we choose to love and serve others that genuine healing takes place.

Alphabet soup for the soul vol.2 -“G”

G is for God

“In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth” Genesis 1:1

The birds and bees, the leaves and trees, the rolling rivers and salty seas.

Antelope through to Zebra, from A-Z , its a self-nod to things that remind me of God.

Embrace the moments so there will be no regrets. Capture the beauty of the stars, sunrises and sunsets.

Not only did God make such sights for us to experience elation and elevation . The visual display is God displaying divine presence through creation.

Is that too far of a reach for you? Is it a concept that is too hard to grasp?

Maybe it is easier to pretend that God is some guy sitting above the clouds like ancient pictures of Zeus?

Its no accident that the first five words of the bible are “In the beginning God created.”

What if everything we see is God? The good and the bad. Something similar is written in revelations 22:13, “The Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end. The first and the last (and everything in between).”

Different points of attention combine that to create the quantum field, the universe we live in. The thing we call Source, Chi or Lifeforce. All of these things are God, and God is everywhere.

She is inside every one of us. That means that right now, inside of you is the divine nature of God, and what is God? Creation manifested!

The best way to experience the divine is to create. When we are creating we fully present and the reason is that we are creators made in the image of God. Because of this extraordinary gift, God will manifest through us to create heaven on Earth.

When I write these words or give a powerful speech, it is God coming through me to create. You see, It is not a who but a feeling. A feeling I know to be true, a feeling called God.

Alphabet soup for the soul vol.2 -“F”

F is for Freedom

“Freedom, in any case, is only possible by struggling for it” – Albert Einstein-

Visualize a horizontal line with zero in the middle and as you move to the left it says -1, -2 and so on. As you move to the right it says +1 and +2 etc.

If we want freedom then we have to make the decisions and choices that move us to the right side of that scale. The formula for freedom is simply to aim for more pluses than minuses.

Every time we make bad choices for our body, mind and spirit, we move to the minus side of neutral.

The thing is that we are constantly making choices each day and we can end up with plus 100 or minus 100 every day.

What we will begin to notice over time is that the more plus’ we have, the more plus’ we will want.

When we start accumulating little wins they stack on top of each other and turn into big gains.

By doing this we also become aware of when the choices we are making are minuses. That awareness leads us to make better choices and add more ‘plus’ to our existence.

There will always be a couple of negatives in your life and that is okay. That will happen naturally but if we notice them, we can correct them in the future.

Eventually, we get to a point where we begin to tip the scales to the plus side. If we can do this 80 % of the time or more then we will have mastered Pareto’s principle and live a happy healthy life.

When we measure and review our progress we begin to notice things that we did not notice before.

We start to see ourselves stepping into the person we want to become and we know a new truth empirically. That success is found in the journey we take, not in the destination we reach.

So, Are you struggling to succeed? Maybe today is the day to start adding some more pluses to your personal success scale.

Alphabet soup for the soul vol.2 -“E”

E is for Ego

“In the war of Ego, the loser always wins” -Buddha-

Ego is the mind interrupting the present moment with chatter and trickery of thought patterns.

In the western world, Ego is usually viewed as a person who seems vain or braggadocios and always ‘showing off’ as in that guy has a big ego.  This description of Ego is hungry for power, money, fame, and lust to name a few. These are all lower vibrational frequencies.

This is not the full story though. Simply put, Ego arises when we live in fear. The braggadocios person is bragging because they fear that no one will love them unless they have all sorts of accomplishments to show like money, cars or whatever they are bragging about.

Ego can also manifest in the opposite way. When we hear people say “no one loves me” or “poor me” that is also the ego coming out to play.

Anytime the victim mentality is hard at work you can be sure the ego is involved

In truth, often the ego does feel sorry for itself (or it gets you to feel sorry for it). The ego is what remains when we are not living in love and light.

Wayne Dyer uses EGO as an Acronym for Edge God Out

Ego is the voice in your head telling you that you need to do something to feel a certain way. It tells us that we need something outside of ourselves to make us feel good or to achieve happiness or success.

I am here to tell you that simply by waking up today you did enough.

The ego is and always will be fighting our soul for attention. It’s as if the ego is the little devil on your shoulder and the soul is that angel on the opposite shoulder and they are both trying to get you to go with them.

Ego will tell us anything in order to get us to do what it wants.

When we decide to let God in, instead of Edge God Out then we quiet the ego and return to the soul of Love and Light which is our natural state. 

Alphabet soup for the soul vol.2 -“D”

D is for Design

“Your future hasn’t been written yet. No one’s has! Your future is whatever you make it. So make it a good one!” -Doc Brown-

To live an intentional life, you must first design it. 

We all get to create our future. Whatever has happened in the past, whatever tragedy or despair that has been put in your path is a part of your unique journey.

It is something that you can transmute for the good of yourself and others.

 The secret is to turn your pain into your power. Make it your super-power.

Ask yourself “how can the worst thing that ever happened to me become the best thing that ever happened to me. “

From this moment forth, make a commitment to yourself to start each new day with an intentional effort to grow into the person you want to be.  Write down the things you want from life and go after them. It doesn’t even matter if you get them, what matters is that you try.

Make a plan and decide if the plan is achievable.

If it is, then just follow the plan no matter what. Your mind will try and trick you by talking you out of doing the things you wrote down, the things you know will lead you in the direction of your goals. But you don’t have to listen, you can tell your mind to shut up.

It will say things like “start tomorrow”, “you can do it later” or “just stay under the covers, it’s warm in here.”

This is the minds way of keeping you safe (and small) because it knows the brain wants to conserve energy and do as little as possible.

However, if you have a plan that you stick to than it doesn’t matter what your mind says. You just follow the plan and at the end of the month, quarter, or year you will quickly look back at the progress you made.

Intentional progress acts as evidence of a life designed on purpose.

Check out alphabet soup for the soul vol.1 “D’ is for Dharma