R is for Remembering
“Can you remeber who you were, before the world told you who you should be”
Babies and toddlers innately know what to do? They do not have to be taught or learn, they just know. It also helps that they believe in themselves, have a faith in themselves and desire that is unwavering. Conversley and most importantly they do not doubt themselves.
Have you ever seen a toddler learning to walk? How many times do they fall down?
Not only do they get back up every single time but they eventually reach their end goal. This single metaphor tackles many areas inherent to success, such as;
- Always get back up
2. Do not ever stop trying to reach your goal
3. Do not entertain “no” or “impossible as an option
A toddler will learn how to walk because they never entertain the idea that they can’t walk. It simply is not an option not to do so.
A wise guru said that if a child is alone and hungry , and see’s berries on a bush, the child does not try to put the berries in their ears or their eyes. The child understands intellectually that the berries go in the mouth and no one needs to tell the child this.
As children we knew what to do, how we felt and who we were. Somehow it is conditioned out of us overtime by well meaning people who want to fill our heads with their dogmas and ideology, based on what they experienced in their lives and what they think they know. Sometimes the advice is helpful, like not putting your hand on a hot stove or learning not to walk in front of a moving car. More often than not however the “lessons” are nonsensical and better be left unsaid.
Young kids are in the present moment the majority of the time and are almost always in a state of bliss , even when upset they are fully present with those feelings. They will sit with the feeling for a minute or two and once felt, they are done with that emotion. This is because they allow emotions to move through them and out of them.
Young kids are naturally in a waking meditation, enamoured with the world around them and not worried about the mistakes of the past or what will happen in the future.
Adults do the opposite and try to not feel the emotion by either burying it quickly or distracting ourselves with something else so we do not have to feel the unwanted feelings.
Which sceanrio is more helpful? As such we must remeber what we have forgotten and be more like the curious children of the world. We must allow all emotions, good and bad, to play their part and feel them before ultimatley releasing them back to whence they came.