R is for Remembering
“Can you remember who you were before the world told you who you should be”
Babies and toddlers innately know what to do. They do not have to be taught or learn; they just know. It also helps that they believe in themselves, have faith in themselves, and have unwavering desires. Conversely, and, most importantly, they do not doubt themselves.
Have you ever seen a toddler learning to walk? How many times do they fall?
Not only do they get back up every single time, but they eventually reach their end goal. This single metaphor tackles many areas inherent to success, such as;
- Always get back up
2. Do not ever stop trying to reach your goal
3. Do not entertain “no” or “impossible as an option
A toddler will learn how to walk because they never entertain the idea that they can’t walk. It simply is not an option not to do so.
A wise guru said that if a child is alone and hungry and sees berries on a bush, they do not try to put them in their ears or eyes. This is because the child understands intellectually that the berries go in the mouth, and no one needs to tell the child this.
As children, we knew what to do, how we felt and who we were. Yet, somehow it is conditioned out of us over time by well-meaning people who want to fill our heads with their dogmas and ideology based on what they experienced in their lives and what they think they know. Sometimes the advice is helpful, like not putting your hand on a hot stove or learning not to walk in front of a moving car. More often than not, however, the “lessons” are nonsensical and better be left unsaid.
Young kids are in the present moment most of the time and are almost always in a state of bliss; even when upset, they are fully present with those feelings. They will sit with the surface for a minute or two and, once felt, are done with that emotion. This is because they allow emotions to move through and out of them.
Young kids are naturally in a waking meditation, enamoured with the world around them and not worried about past mistakes or what will happen in the future.
Adults do the opposite and try to not feel the emotion by either burying it quickly or distracting themselves with something else so they do not have to process and handle the unwanted discomfort.
Which scenario is more helpful? As such, we must remember what we have forgotten and be more like the curious children of the world. We must allow all emotions, good and bad, to play their part and feel them before ultimately releasing them back to whence they came.